Moms everywhere want to know is managing motherhood without losing your mind possible.
Are you struggling to keep up with the day to day demands of being a mom? Do you feel like you are drowning in all the things you need to do, not knowing where to start? Is there no structure to your days? When you are with your kids, is your mind somewhere else? Managing motherhood is overwhelming.
Occasionally, I feel overwhelmed by all the things I “have to do.” However, for the most part, I am able to keep with the tasks and priorities that God has placed in my life. This is due to the fact that I manage my household like I am the CEO. I treat homemaking and motherhood as a career because that is exactly what it is.
As I add more children to my family every few years, it becomes more important to keep routines. Not just for myself, but for the kids as well. Everyone just does better when there is some sort of structure to the day. A sort of system where we know what’s coming next, but yet, are able to be very flexible.
How do you do it all?!
A very common question that is asked of me is, “How do you do it all?!” Instead of trying to explain this, I’m going to do a little 6-ish week blog series on just that. This is post number one. I believe that moms are not asking this because they want to do what I want to do. They are asking because they want tips. So many moms need help. Between all the things happening in this modern world, it’s way too simple to get caught up in the rat race and feel like we need to do all the things until we explode of overwhelm. Moms want to see if there is anything in my day that could help them with their day.
The world is against moms these days. Just a few decades ago, men went to work, and moms had all day to do what they need to do. Now, moms work full time, take the kids to sports practices, and are still expected to have dinner on the table at 6pm. We have different battles than our grandparents did. Everyone wants to know if managing motherhood without losing your mind is possible.
Now, I am not saying that I am super mom. In fact, far from it. I just happen to have some of my poop in a group and that makes things a bit easier. It isn’t easy but I focus on being intentional with my time.
For the next few weeks, I will be going over decluttering, mornings, laundry, meal planning, and more.
We all have different priorities, therefore, we all have different days. We spend our time differently. You could be a stay at home, homeschooling, homesteading mom of 5, just like me. However, I guarantee your time is spent differently than mine is.
There are so many books, blog posts, and podcasts on routines and time management. Hopefully though, I can help you address your unique needs on how to manage being a mom and running a home.
Personally, figuring out my priorities has been the most difficult part of my life in the last decade. It’s easy to say, “my family is my priority.” But actions speak louder than words. Do you constantly say that your family is your priority but your actions never line up with it. I catch myself making that mistake so often!
What is most important to you? Your husband? The kids? Your career? There are no wrong answers here. Make a list. It takes a conscious effort to put our priorities first, so writing them down so you can know how to schedule them is key.
Also, depending on your season of life, your priorities will change. If you have an infant, your priority is to feed them and change them. Maybe you are in the wonderful stages of toddler-dom, which if you ask me, is the best and the worst! In that stage, I’m still not sure if managing motherhood without losing your mind is possible! 🙂 If you have teenagers, your priority might be to get them to look from their phone long enough so you can talk to them. Maybe you have both teenagers and an infant, in which case, God bless you! Getting the teenager to look up from their phone while you are catering to the infant is going to really take a conscience effort.
Now that you know what your priorities are, it is time to start planning.
If you want, you can get yourself a fancy planner here. I love my Erin Condren planner but a piece of plain white paper works too!
First things first, write down the times you are awake on the side of the paper. Then you are going to start filling in.
Do things that have specific times first. So, you if need to be at work from 9-5, then write down work. After you have the time things done, it’s time to fill in priorities. If you say that your priority is eating together as a family, then you need to have time to cook and eat instead of driving thru and eating on the road. So maybe at 5 you leave work, 5:15 you normally get the kids, and by 5:30 you are home. So, you need to plan cooking and eating after that. Or maybe Mondays, Wednesday, and Fridays you are putting food in the crockpot before leaving in the morning. Thursdays you might be putting something in the instant pot and hitting the delay function, so it starts cooking at 5 for you.
Where can you make it work for you? Maybe you aren’t prioritizing nice meals, but you just want everyone eating together. That’s fine too! Plan on making easy Mac and hot dogs!
Maybe your next biggest priority is time with your husband. Look at your day. Can you fit time in with him at lunch? What about after putting the kids to bed? What about early mornings?
Do you see what I’m doing here. Work in order. Don’t try to fill up all your time. Just do the big things. If it’s not a priority, don’t put it down…for now. You can add it back in later. For now, we are just trying to live our best lives and volunteering for the PTA bake sale is not the best use of our time. Unless that’s your priority, otherwise, let Betty down the street do that.
After you have your priorities planned out, you can whip out your fancy planner and really have some fun. You know, if you’re into that. Which, I myself, totally am.
When you are a mom of littles, this needs to be your biggest focus and biggest priority for right now. It is training time. If you don’t have a good sleep routine, it is time to get to work! Get your littles napping at the same time and get them sleeping through the night.
Managing Motherhood without Losing Your Mind
Okay, now go get to work. Stay tuned for the next few weeks because managing all the things a mother needs to do is about to become much easier for you!
If you are a first-time mom, I highly suggest you read my post on what I wish I knew as a first-time mom.
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