As a homeschooling, mom of 5 (3 of them under 4), I often get told, “I don’t know how you do it.” Honestly, I’m not sure either but I do know that a daily routine is necessary. Reevaluating your routine when it isn’t working is also necessary. Recently, I have had to do this. Things weren’t working for us, so we are trying something new. Spoiler alert: so far, things are going so much smoother! Let’s go over how to fix your homeschool routine.
How To Fix Your Homeschool Routine
If you are stressed in your homeschool, it’s likely because things are not set up for you to enjoy it. Your routine is essential and if your routine isn’t working for you, that can cause huge proplems.
It’s time to take a look at your daily homeschooling routine.
- What in your day is causing you the most stress?
- Do you need to be more realistic on what can be accomplished in a day?
- What can you let go of?
- How can you change things up?
What in your day is causing you the most stress?
For me, that would be the toddlers. Having 3 kids under the age of 4 is not a simple thing to deal with. Adding in homeschooling on top of that is just insanity. But here we are doing it.
I needed to figure out what I could do with the toddlers to allow me to focus on the bigger kids. This did involve some thinking. Honestly, I already felt like I was doing all the things. Giving them focused time before the school day, having “school time only” toys, schooling during nap time. What else could I do?!
The answer is so simple it’s almost embarrassing that I didn’t think of it. Involve them. Bring them into learning with you.
When I have a baby, I baby wear during the day. They are a part of the school day with us. So why wouldn’t I let them be apart now. I had an expectation that they need to do their own thing and not interrupt us. Well, recently we have decided to give Gather Round curriculum a try. In the family pack, they have stuff for pre-readers. That triggered something in my brain to say, “toddlers can learn with you.”
I’m going to be completely honest here, they still interrupt us. Especially the 2-year-old. He colors his page for about 35 seconds before he is off to the next activity which usually involves him needing help but not wanting help, which turns into screaming. However, things are better than before. I try to make it a big deal that he can sit in my lap and cuddle me during homeschool time. Somedays that works, most days it doesn’t.
Do you need to be more realistic about what you can accomplish in a day?
Expectations for myself are high. Like, insanely high. I expect myself to make 3 homemade meals, keep a clean house, homestead, homeschool, workout daily, and run a blog. With that, I expect no things to go wrong.
You can imagine how many times in one day that I disappoint myself. Not only that, but I was also allowing the stress of not being able to do it all get to me. Which I took out on the kids. I had to look in the mirror and say, “No, you can’t do this. Nobody can.” I am working really hard on giving up expectations now. Not only for myself, but for my husband and my kids too.
However, I have recently been trying to do my morning routine at night, which for right now, is totally working surprisingly enough. That could be because it’s still fresh and new though. I’ll let you know if it keeps working for me later.
To summarize, you are doing more than you think and it’s okay to not do it all.
What can you let go of?
After realizing that you can’t do it all, it’s time to decide what you can let go of. For me, that was our curriculum. I loved math-u-see for math, but it required hands on time for me. So, we had to switch to teaching textbooks for math. Now, math is a hands-off subject for me.
I also mentioned earlier we are trying out Gather Round homeschool curriculum. The reason for that is that the entire family can work on it together. It’s got a one room school room type feel. I’m not trying to do a bunch of different things with each kid because they are on different levels. Now, there are just a few tweaks for each kid.
You can probably let go of more than you think. Ask yourself, “What one thing would make me feel like I had a successful year in homeschooling my child.” Now, go from there. For me, I really want my kids to love to read and I want them to want to learn. That’s my focus.
How can you change things?
Is it switching curriculums like I did? Is it moving your morning routine at night because the toddlers keep ruining your time alone?
Read-alouds were a particular difficult time for us. Now, I am reading out loud to the kids while they eat. It seems to help.
Think outside the box here. We are homeschoolers so things don’t need to be 8am-3pm. When I was first thinking these things through, I was thinking about doing school after 8pm when the toddlers were in bed. Maybe that works for your family?
Changing your mindset is also a big thing. I am working on mine. Focusing on Heaven, not Harvard. It’s okay if we don’t get science done because we were working on our heart and our character during an argument instead.
How To Fix Your Homeschool Routine
Now that you have asked yourself these questions, it is time to put it into action and fix your homeschool routine! Let me know in the comments below if these questions were helpful or not.